Friday, May 10, 2013
Military Wives ...
Each one may look different and each is wonderfully unique, But this is what they have in common:
Lots of moving...
Moving far from home...
Moving two cars, three kids and one dog...
all riding with HER of course.
Moving sofas to basements because they won't go in THIS house;
Moving curtains that won't fit;
Moving away from friends;
Moving toward new friends;
Moving her most important luggage: her trunk full of memories.
Waiting for housing.
Waiting for orders.
Waiting for deployments.
Waiting for phone calls.
Waiting for reunions.
Waiting for the new curtains to arrive.
Waiting for him to come home, For dinner...AGAIN!
They call her 'Military Dependent', but she knows better:
She is fiercely In-Dependent.
She can balance a check book;
Handle the yard work;
Fix a noisy toilet;
Bury the family pet...
She is intimately familiar with drywall anchors and toggle bolts.
She can file the taxes;
Sell a house;
Buy a car;
Or set up a move...
.....all with ONE Power of Attorney.
She welcomes neighbors that don't welcome her.
She reinvents her career with every move; Locates a house in the east, west or out of country.
And learns to call them all 'home.'
She MAKES them all home.
Military Wives are somewhat hasty...
They leap into:
They don't have 15 years to get to know people.
Their roots are short but flexible.
They plant annuals for themselves
and perennials for those who come after them.
Military Wives quickly learn to value each other:
They connect over coffee,
Rely on the spouse network,
Accept offers of friendship and favors.
Record addresses in pencil...
Military Wives have a common bond:
The Military Wife has a husband unlike other husbands; his commitment is unique.
He doesn't have a 'JOB'
He has a 'MISSION' that he can't just decide to quit...
He's on-call for his country 24/7.
His language is foreign
NOK, PCS, OPR, SOS, ACC, BDU, ACU, BAR, CIB, BDF And so, a Military Wife is a translator for her family and his.
She is the long- distance link to keep them informed; the glue that holds them together.
A Military Wife has her moments:
She wants to scream;
Dye his uniform pink;
Refuse to move to Siberia;
But she pulls herself together.
Give her a few days,
A travel brochure,
A long hot bath,
A wedding picture,
And she goes.
You may think it is because she has lost her mind.
But actually it is because she has lost her heart .
It was stolen from her by a man,
Who puts duty first,
Who longs to deploy,
Who salutes the flag,
And whose boots in the doorway remind her that as long as he is her Military Husband, she will remain his military wife.
And would have it no other way.
~ Author Unknown, shared by my sweet Army sister, Lisa.
Happy Military Spouse appreciation day to all my Army sisters out there!!
Tuesday, May 7, 2013
I recently received a message from author Kristin Ayyar about reviewing her book, Countdown 'Til Daddy Comes Home. I was instantly interested, of course. I love children's books and have a special affection for books that help military kids. I quickly received her book in the mail and immediately loved the look of it.
The illustrations are just precious and perfect for your youngest kids. Kudos to illustrator Melissa Bailey for creating such a sweet portrait of family and togetherness.
The story itself is both realistic for kids whose parents must travel for extended periods of time and positive in how those challenges are portrayed. It focuses on encouragement and solutions, which I absolutely love. It contains a variety of concrete ideas for families to implement to make separations a little easier.
"During our countdown, Nana visits more and we plan cool things to make the time go by faster."One huge plus for this book is that it relates to all children who have a dad who travels. It's equally applicable to military families as well as families who experience business-related travel. Another bonus is the list of Discussion Questions at the end of the book which allows anyone reading the book to talk with a child about how the separation might be affecting them. Another favorite is the clever addition of "Four Ways to Countdown" ideas for helping kids cope with the time their parent will be away.
The book is geared for younger children but is a great addition to any family's library, especially those who have business travel, military or otherwise, in their future.
To read more about the book, go to www.daddycountdown.com.
You can also order Countdown 'Til Daddy Comes Home here:
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